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The World is Your Enemy

Sometimes it feels as if the world is your worst enemy,
Whatever you do, it is against you,
dragging you through hell with self-doubts and insecurity.
The devil thrives off of your fear and sadness.
It taunts you like a school bully,
Mercurial like a toxic lover,
Playing hard-to-get and all these mind games.
Feeding on trepidations, wanting power and control.
It is the oldest trick in the world, really,
yet, not a day less effective and convincing.

Labels, Judgement and Prejudice.

Let me start off by asking you this, 

"what is the most common misconception people have of you?"

Growing up, I was deemed to be a "rebellious teen" and a "bad student" by my teachers. I was called selfish and superficial by my own family, my passion for learning different languages and cultures granted me the ridiculous label of "whitewashed", and I was always considered to be "different" and "weird" for being interested in things kids my own age were not into. Other than these labels, I was constantly being told I had too many opinions for my own good. 

These are just some of the labels put on me throughout my childhood and teenage years.


An exterior image can be deceiving and misleading. I assume that is why they taught us not to judge a book simply by its cover and we should at least give others the benefit of the doubt. Nevertheless, people often go about their one precious lives judging everything single person we encounter, trying so hard to interpret their intentions and characteristics based on their external presence. How well they dress, how confident they appear to be, how wealthy and connected they must be and well, that instant impression oftentimes determines whether or not we want to associate with this particular person.


What a shame it really is. Our intuitions might be right at times, yet when it comes to meeting people, truly knowing one another, the first impression is usually subjective and prejudicial. If only we could live without judgments, put aside our preconceptions about certain things and certain types of people and see each other as just human beings. Beyond all these categorizations and bigotry, is someone that deserves a little bit more of our time before we ultimately jump to our conclusions based on a facade or their appearance.


It goes with anything we do in our lives. Befriending someone, going to job interviews, meeting your new classmates or colleagues. Give others and ourselves a chance before we judge. Humans are such incredible, multi-dimensional, multi-layers and complex beings. We are worth much more than just this one "label". We have the formidable ability to learn, emulate and transcend ourselves. Still, we are too quick to draw our conclusion before thorough examination and observation.


Moving forward, I aim to hold less judgment and preconceived opinions in my heart, and leave more room for acceptance and recognition for others. For I have been judged by strangers based on how I look and dress all my life for me to do the same to others.

I'd like to think that each and every one of us is currently experiencing our own life journey while writing our own story. We might not understand other people chapters, but we have the ability and chance to listen before we judge.


“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.”
― Audre Lorde


“Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilized by education: they grow there, firm as weeds among stones.” 
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre


Comments

  1. I love this post! I am sorry you were labelled as a child, let alone an adult. I think it is so important for people of all ages to questions and have opinions on all topics. Your photos are so creative, you are a beautiful soul lovely! xx

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    1. Thank you for your lovely words, Janet. Really means a lot :) x

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  2. This is well written and makes a lot of sense. That bathroom is one of a kind, so creative of you for this concept including your outfit which really suits the entire content.

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  3. Love this cool fall look! Amazing photos.

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  4. Love this post and LOVE the photos. It's so true that we must reserve judgment. I learned that through practicing Mindfulness -a practice that requires you to reserve your judgment and look at things with curiosity instead.

    -orange walls

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    1. That's actually a great advice. Thank you dear :) x

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  5. This post is so amazing, and these photos are just as flawless! You are spot on, it is so important to not judge others!
    XOXO,
    Vanessa
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  6. I always love your photo-shoot! Great mix&match Marina!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

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  7. so cool post!!!
    thanks for sharing!

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  8. Yes, it's such a common theme especially in the town where I was born. People do tend to judge others and I think it's because it's a shortcut they can take as opposed to really getting to know them. I've been a victim of this as well and I have also caught myself doing it, but I agree, we need to be less judgmental <3 Have a lovely day!

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  9. So sorry you had these experiences as child ... Love the pictures and the look!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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  10. It truly is incredible just how much we can assume about someone based on their appearance and/or characteristics! Being less judgmental over time can only be a good thing, that's for sure. On a different note, I LOVE your blazer here babe!

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    1. Always love hearing from you, Gabrielle. Thank you for your kind words.

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  11. I am so sorry, that you had these experiences as a kid.
    Beeing less judgmental over time is so important and definetly a good thing.
    The pictures are so amazing my dear.

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  12. Love all these artistic vintage pictures. External images are obvious, what's true inside takes time to find out. Only Superficial people judge people by their appearances.
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    1. I completely agree :) Thank you for your lovely reply.

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  13. This is such a great post, and truly highlights the damage that pre-conceived labels can have on a perception of an individual. It's awful that people assumed such things about you - things which can be suppressing or detrimental to someone, particularly in the long term. I completely agree in your view that a shift is needed. I hope these labels will have faded in a decade or so, and people are seen like the multi-faceted three dimensional beings they really are. Beautiful images by the way, you look incredible!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet reply, Georgia :) Really means a lot.

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  14. Sadly being judged is part of life. I also had a lot of misconceptions about me and still do by the people who don't really know me.
    I love your photos!

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    1. Couldn't agree more. Sometimes even people that you think know you could still have misconceptions about you, that's truly sad. Thanks for the comment :) x

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  15. This photoshoot is soooo stunning and I love this post so much Hun!

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  16. I couldn't agree more! It's important not to judge. I loved your post and your photos are beyond gorgeous. <3
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  17. We shouldn't judge, but we do it anyways. Human beings for you. You're beautiful!

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  18. You look so cute babe.
    Love the photos.

    Much Love,
    Jane | The Bandwagon Chic

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  19. You look amazing babe.
    I believe and love those people who don't judge people.

    Much Love,
    Jane | The Bandwagon Chic

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  20. It's always apleasure to visit your blog, happy Halloween!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

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  21. This is such a beautifully written post! I definitely agree that one should not be judgmental and that it is the differences in all of us that make us both interesting and special! Thanks for sharing your inspirational words and amazing photos!

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  22. I always not to try people by exterior. And also I try not judge them by gossip. Especially that I know that often I do impression of"gossip girl" that all she cares about is partying. SO I know that judgements are not always true
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    1. I could not agree with you more :) Thanks for your lovely comment. xx

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  23. I loved this post so much! I always always make a conscious effort not to judge people before getting to know them and the differences within each individual is what makes the world so interesting any way!

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    1. Thank you for this comment! I reckon we ought to make a conscious effort not to judge a person when we first meet them. It's so nice to know we have that in common :) xx

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  24. Hi love
    I am so inspired by your post, thank you so much for sharing!
    Enjoy your day!


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